
Consequences vs. Compliance
As a preschool teacher at a private school, we have a little more control over our classes due to the fact that our director supports us in our disciplinary actions. There are, of course, things we cannot due by law, but we can do some things that other schools cannot because they are more about "self esteem building", than modifying bad behavior. In my class we use a "Clip Chart". This is a chart with faces and words that describe where each child is on that day. On Monday, they begin at "Hello" and can either work their way up to "Outstanding" or move down to "Sad Day". There are seven slots ranging from "Sad Day"(the bottom) to "Outstanding" at the top. In between are those like, "Great Effort", "Good Work", "Try Harder" and "Think about it". Each day they are in school is an opportunity to "Clip Up" or "Clip Down". For each day when we have a specialty teacher like Perceptual Training (little kid PE) or Music they will get "clipped up" if they obey and behave. They do not get clipped down if they don't behave. They will get clipped down, however, if they hurt someone, break something on purpose, disobey in a manner that is way defiant and other things that may be to the teacher's discretion.
I try really hard NOT to clip down, it is hard on a 4 year old, and they may not always understand why even if we explain. There are times that I have clipped kids down and they get upset but that is what the clip chart is for, to teach them what is unacceptable behavior. At the end of the week if they are in either "Great Day" or "Outstanding"(the two top spots on the chart) they will receive something out of my "Treasure Box". They look forward to this a lot!
Now, in some instances, I am sure I have given a child treasure box when they shouldn't have gotten it, but if they are on the fence, and they can redeem themselves I will help them to acheive the goal. Most of the time, all the kids in my class will get treasure box. This year, unfortunately, there has been a child that has missed treasure box quite a few times with no chance to redeem himself. It is difficult and he gets upset, but after talking to his mother, and understanding more about how this child works, it seems to be the best thing for him. (By the way, it is not the child in the photo). So, I continue to work on the behavior as best I can and I will be praying for the teacher that gets him next year in Kindergarten. Think about how difficult it will be for her to watch him out of 20 kids instead of 10! I will be praying hard!
I cannot imagine how hard it would be for this child in the public school system. We are able to teach about God and His love at our school and it is a great help in teaching the Why factor. Why should we behave? Why should we not hurt our friends? Why is it important to do our best?
We can also pray with the children and ask for God's help in doing good. Believe me, it makes a difference! This child will have a hard time no matter where he goes but at least the teacher will understand better and will be able to pray for and with him!